We Need To Talk

Hi.  Kathleen, here.

I was recently "outed" as a swinger to my coworker Ron.  Most people would be uncomfortable knowing something like that about someone they worked with, but for some reason, Ron started to talk to me, and flirt with me quite a bit more.  Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it.  You see, I have a thing for nice looking bald guys.  So, I guess he would be what you would call my workplace crush.  Knowing all of that, Ron started to ask me if I would break my rule about not playing with coworkers.  That question in and of itself made me pause to reassess the rule. 

My first concern was how would my husband feel knowing that I play with someone I work with.  I mean, I'm at work a lot more than I am at home sometimes.  I'm not sure how I would feel if the situation were reversed, so I immediately assumed that Joe would be uncomfortable.  Well, since I share EVERYTHING with Joe, I decided that this new development needed to be discussed as well.  To my surprise, Joe was more than OK with it.  He essentially told me that if I wanted to play with Ron, then that's what I should do.  This of course got my mind racing, and the sexual tension started to increase when I was around Ron at work just because I knew that if I wanted, I could have him.

You would think that knowing that I had a green light, I would just go with the flow, but something was holding me back.  It took me a bit to figure it out, but I realized that this wasn't going to be just a fling with a swinger who I could just drop and never see again if it doesn't work out.  This is a guy who I would have to see every day if it doesn't work out.  Also, Ron is single.  There is something safer about a married guy.  You KNOW he's in it for the sex.  That's it.  But, a single guy, even though he's in it for the sex.... could he also possibly become too invested in this new "friendship"?  That's when I decided to call him up on the phone to make a lunch date for the weekend.  I told him that  "We Need To Talk".   No playing...just that we need to talk.   I had a lot of questions in my head that I needed answered before I even considered getting involved.  So many questions....